The big C

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When my youngest sister was a first-year med student, she said to me, “We’re all going to die of cancer.” Well, that was a dire prediction and maybe a bit dramatic, I thought at the time. But in just this last year, cancer has affected so many people in my circle.

Yesterday, my sister’s father-in-law passed away from cancer. My sister-in-law’s father also has cancer. My friend’s sister and her aunt both have cancer. My former principal had multiple surgeries last winter to deal with her cancer. Last summer I was diagnosed with cancer.

I had a form of breast cancer that my doctor said was “the best cancer to get if you’re going to get cancer.” I’m learning to acknowledge that, even though it was much easier to deal with than others, it was still an ordeal. Hearing of other people’s difficult experiences with cancer makes me feel guilty about the relative ease I’ve had with mine.

I want to write about so many things that happened during my diagnosis, treatment, recovery. So many issues, feelings, and thoughts about healthcare, coping, support. But for now, I’ll leave it here.

Four days after surgery, we had book club at my house. Everything was taken care of by my friends and House Call Barbie even showed up.

14 responses to “The big C”

  1. Anita Ferreri Avatar
    Anita Ferreri

    First, you post captures my attention on many, many levels.I hope you are doing well and using ALL the tricks and tools to fight off this really tough disease.I am pretty sure your friends know about the power of laughter and friendship.THAT PICTURE!!!!!!!!!!

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  2. franmcveigh Avatar

    House call Barbie is quite the friend! It takes a village/network/community. 

    And the big C.

    I remember when a nephew was already in remission before the age of 10.

    I’m at that age where I could probably attend a funeral every week for a relative or someone in the neighborhood where we grew up. Not fun. 

    Take care!

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  3. TLC Avatar
    TLC

    It is so widespread, it’s almost impossible to know someone whose life has not been affected by it. Any kind can be life changing, so happy you are okay and have the support of good friends!

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  4. jodimahoney Avatar

    This is a good reminder to not take our health for granted. Thank you for sharing. Here’s to your health!

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  5. mschiubookawrites Avatar

    You write with candor and heart about the big C. So much of this resonates. The House Call Barbie pic truly shows the power of community. Thank you for sharing.

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  6. arjeha Avatar

    My brother’s cancer has returned after two years in remission. Laughter and friends are great coping mechanisms. 

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    1. vivian chen Avatar

      I’m sorry to hear that. May there be laughter, family, and friends to see him through.

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      1. arjeha Avatar

        Thank you.

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  7. Lakshmi Bhat Avatar

    I am glad you have recovered. Here too we hear more and more about cancer. My mother got it thrice. She is 83 and fine. Thank you for your application. 

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  8. onathought Avatar

    I have choice words for cancer. F*** Cancer. I’m sorry you have had to deal with it so personally and with so many loved ones. Your friends and their support and laughter are so important. It’s hard for me to have words about this subject because of a personal loss – but I am sending you so much healing energy.

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  9. Denise Krebs Avatar
    Denise Krebs

    Haha, House Call Barbie looks like a hoot! A nice way to end a sober post about cancer. Smiling and seeing the bright spots of joy and book clubs is a great way to balance the C word.

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  10. natashadomina Avatar

    Your beginning is a powerful way to lead into this piece–with the sweeping generalization, before shifting into specific people you know, and then moving to yourself. I’ve been hearing this lesson more and more in various ways: that just because other people have it harder, doesn’t mean that we can’t let ourselves feel that we are going through what is tough for us. Glad that this community has made you feel that you can trust us with this hard news, and that you’re letting yourself acknowledge that going through any kind of cancer is hard. I hope you’re getting lots of support–glad that health care Barbie is on your side!!

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  11. fireflytrails Avatar

    My experience with breast cancer 10 years ago sounds very similar to yours, and I too have felt a little guilty about the “relative ease” I have experienced. But I have had so many tell me that cancer is just that – cancer – no matter what form it takes. I also realize that my “ease” came from so many patients with cancer who went before that helped the medical field learn about the treatments that made my journey what it was. And thank you for that wonderful photo – your support system sounds most encouraging, which is another big thing for which to be thankful!

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    1. vivian chen Avatar

      Thank you for your insight. It helps to hear others who have had the same experience.

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